When to Question, When to Answer
“Don’t ask, don’t tell” was the colloquial term for official U.S. military policy from 1993 to 2011. What was that all about? Americans born on or before about 1973 probably remember—it concerned the armed forces approach to what then unapologetically was termed “homosexuality”. Actually, the entire policy was “don’t ask, don’t tell, don’t pursue, and don’t harass,” and it was President Bill Clinton’s and the Legislature’s way simultaneously to both address and avoid the issue. The policy is one obvious example of questioning and answering influences on human psychology and interpersonal relationships. All people personally are inclined to ask about some issues and to avoid others. Knowing those inclinations of your own can empower you to make good decisions. For instance, given the current toxic social environment, most of us have learned to be very circumspect about what formerly would have been casual, harmless political questions and...